Is updating your Facebook status to married at the alter proper etiquette?

Have you heard about what Dana Hanna did right before the pastor said, “You may now kiss the bride?” Technically it’s correct etiquette since he waited until it was official to update his status.  Read below:

facebook etiquetteDuring his wedding ceremony, Dana Hanna whipped out his mobile device and not only changed his relationship status to married on Facebook, but also sent out a tweet announcing that the couple had become man and wife.  The pastor  announced to everyone what was going on as he did it and got a big chuckle. The whole scene was captured on tape and posted to YouTube, so you too can check out the non-traditional altar activities of the newlyweds.

Here is the most appropriate guide I have found to date for Facebook status update etiquette from Time Magazine:

There are six relationship categories Facebook users can choose from: single, in a relationship, engaged, married, it’s complicated, and in an open relationship. (Users can decline to list a status, but Facebook estimates that roughly 60% of its users do, with “single” and “married” the most common statuses.) The first four categories are Continue reading

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10 tips on having a cheap wedding that your guests don’t notice

We all know money is tight with the economy being in the shape it is so I complied a list of 10 tips on having a cheap wedding that your guests don’t notice.

1. Invite only TRUE family and friends – This isn’t Facebook. Do you seriously need to invite everyone you went to college with? If you wouldn’t recognize them on the street, they shouldn’t be at your wedding. It’s your day, and you should be surrounded by the people closest to you in the world – and that doesn’t always mean blood relatives. You may need to make some compromises here and there, but don’t sacrifice the presence of someone you truly want there because your mom doesn’t want to offend some distant relative. That’s her problem, not yours.

cheap wedding cakes2. How big is your wedding cake? Most wedding cakes are 40-50% eaten. Why waste money on food thrown in the trash? If you want something gorgeous have a display cake that is perfect but smaller. Then feed your guests from a basic sheet cake to save money. If not interested in sheet cake have your local baker create a large cake with only simple white fondue covering it. You can even use organic edible flowers to decorate it with such as:

  • Nasturtium (peppery tasting)
  • Rose (mild, sweet tasting)
  • Lavender (perfume tasting)
  • Chicory (spicy, bitter tasting)
  • Oregano ( spicy tasting)
  • Pansies (semi-sweet tasting)

3. How long are you wearing the wedding dress? What, maybe 6 hours max? Don’t spend thousands of dollars on a dress you’re only going to wear once. David’s Bridal has $99 wedding gown sales constantly, and you can find awesome bargains at regular dress shops, too. Don’t forget eBay and Craigslist.  Your dress may even be a prom-season find that cost only $100. Do you honestly think your daughter will want to wear your wedding dress 30 years from now… I don’t think so. When your done, pass it to a consignment store and get some money back on it too.

4. Keep the menu simple. Do you really need crab balls and lobster bisque and filet mignon to be able to enjoy your wedding dinner? You can negotiate a five-course plated dinner (including filet mignon) with open wine and beer all night and an hour of passed hors d’oeuvres for less than $50 per person at a nice restaurant in town if you do your homework.

5. Get wedding flowers from your local grocery store or Wal-Mart/Costco. Our local Winn-Dixie even creates free flower arrangements if you buy flowers from them & bring in your own vase. You end up saving about 80% compared to typical florists doing this. Go ahead and ask for a discount and based on your quantity they will probably give it to you. Just keep in mind to use blooms that hold up, as you will need to make arrangements ahead of time. Make sure they use knives to cut the stems, not scissors (adds about 4-5 days to the life of the flowers)

6. Don’t ever hire a wedding DJ. Instead of hiring someone create a playlist on our iPod and hook it up to the reception hall’s speaker system. Your in control and you can make sure the Electric Slide is left out.

7. Be savy about wedding photography. Rather than spend thousands of dollars on a so-called professional photographer with 20 years experience, hire an art student from the local college or a friend of a friend that is gifted in the art of photography. It’s still a good idea to ask to see a portfolio and make sure the personalities fit your style, but don’t assume that you have to spend the Franklins for memorable pictures. But remember, these wedding photos are the only thing that you shouldn’t try to get your uncle Jimmy to do as his wedding gift either…BAD IDEA.

8. Who needs live music from a string quartet? You can walk down the aisle to a beautiful arrangement of Pachbel’s Canon in D Minor on a free CD or your iPod. Just have a good friend push the play button as you walk down the aisle.

cheap wedding invitation from Michael's9. Wedding Invitations get thrown away remember? There are many sources from which to purchase invitations, but one of the least expensive ways to purchase invitations is to do them yourself! You can purchase beautiful invitations that you can print yourself and save a small fortune at places such as Michael’s, Hobby Lobby, etc. If you really want to go ultra cheap use a website like evite.com for invitations and RSVPs. Heck you can even create an event on Facebook and do the same thing. This is the 21st century right?

10. Wedding Venue – If you belong to a church, or if your parents or another relative belong to a church, you can likely rent the church free to hold your wedding. Churches also often also have a place called “fellowship hall” in which you could have a free place to hold your wedding reception. Hopefully you hvae some family that’s Catholic since they typically have the most beautiful churches.

Hey, since this is a blog designed for 2 way conversation what other ways can you think of to shave money off that wedding bill?

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One of my favorite Destin, FL wedding photographers – Sheena Ratliff

Sheena Ratliff from Lens Flare Photos has amazed me with her talent and photography.  I’ve seen her grow over the years into an inspiring Destin, FL wedding photographer.  She has an eye for capturing the unfiltered emotion of a moment, the silly laugh, the tender moment, & the true relationship of a couple.  Talent bundled with passion creates a photography that can transform any of its subjects into art.

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Bride sticks her tongue out at groom - Destin wedding photography

I added a video from her site highlighting one of the military wedding photo shoots she did below.  You need to understand that in this area we have a large number of Air Force personnel by being located close to the world’s largest Air Force base (Eglin Air Force Base).  She has a gift of working with military couples and understanding the kind of struggles they will face with yearly deployments and long distance relationships.  If you are looking for a photographer in the Ft. Walton Beach, Destin, Navarre, Pensacola, FL area I would highly recommend her work.

She also displays her clients work using this cool video software called animoto.  It allows her to easily upload a set of pictures, choose a song, a let the software do the rest to create a stunning presentation of her work.  What other tools do wedding photographers use to help show a client their portfolio?  What are your personal favorites?

Justin and Nicole…. – Click here to watch the video at vimeo.

If you have time feel free to browse the different videos posted on her blog.  I’m sure they will make you smile and appreciate even the simple things in life.

Chelsea Clinton announces engagement by e-mail?

Update – July 31st, 2010 – Check out the pictures from Chelsea Clinton’s wedding here.

Couldn’t she have just updated her facebook status to “Engaged” and got the media circus going crazy just for fun?

Chelsea Clinton announces wedding to Marc Mezvinsky
Chelsea Clinton announces wedding to Marc Mezvinsky

Chelsea Clinton and longtime boyfriend Marc Mezvinsky are engaged, the two announced on Nov. 27, 2009. In a mass email to friends and family, the couple said they are looking to get married until next summer. A Clinton spokesman said he believed the couple got engaged on Thanksgiving in New York, according to multiple reports. Clinton, 29, and Mezvinsky became friends in Washington and attended Stanford University together

Here’s a copy of the e-mail:

“We’re sorry for the mass e-mail but we wanted to wish everyone a belated Happy Thanksgiving! We also wanted to share that we are engaged! We didn’t get married this past summer despite the stories to the contrary, but we are looking toward next summer and hope you all will be there to celebrate with us. Happy Holidays! Chelsea & Marc.”

I am pleased that Chelsea is respecting the Clinton’s wishes of “Don’t get married before you’re 30” edict. She’s 29 now, but with a February birthday she’ll hit the magic number in plenty of time for the summer wedding. Clinton spokesman Matt McKenna said he believed the engagement happened “before Thanksgiving.” Others close to Clinton also indicated the engagement happened earlier and was only announced Friday.

Mezvinsky is a son of former Pennsylvania Rep. Marjorie Margolies-Mezvinsky and former Iowa Rep. Ed Mezvinsky, longtime friends of the Clintons.  It will be an interfaith marriage; Mezvinsky is Jewish, while Clinton grew up attending Methodist Church with her mother. Bill Clinton is Southern Baptist.  Former White House Press Secretary Mike McCurry describes Chelsea as “poised, professional, and personable daughter of a marriage that Continue reading

Kelly Ripa in a wedding dress designed by Project Runway winner Irina Shabayeva

Poor Irina Shabayeve only had 3 days to complete this fabulous wedding dress. Talk about a trial by fire for any wedding event planner in the area if this was a real wedding with only 3 days left to get a custom wedding dress. This dress was featured on the show “Live with Regis & Kelly” live from the Encore at Wynn Las Vegas during the week of November 23-27.  Since then Shavayeva has been getting a flury of calls for custom wedding dresses.

Kelly Ripa wedding gown
Kelly Ripa wedding gown

Just when Project Runway winner Irina Shabayeva thought the challenges were over, she got a new one from Regis and Kelly! The New York designer helped the show Continue reading